Throughout our lives, we dig holes that become deeper with each passing day. These holes come from challenges and unresolved issues we encounter—such as conflicts, damaged relationships, or past traumas—that can deepen if left unaddressed. These growing difficulties not only affect us personally but can also have significant repercussions for those around us.

For example, my mother once recounted the story of two sisters who, after a disagreement, remained estranged for over thirty years. This prolonged discord divided their family, resulting in missed opportunities to connect during reunions, holidays, and significant events. Even as one sister became terminally ill, the other chose not to reconcile before her passing. The consequences of their unresolved conflict extended beyond themselves, shaping family dynamics and instilling patterns of stubbornness and unforgiveness that were passed down through generations. These two sisters passed the shovel to others seen and unseen, making the hole bigger, wider, and deeper.

Proactively addressing and resolving these issues is crucial to preventing their escalation. By doing so, we can mitigate negative outcomes for ourselves and those we care about, and foster healthier, more compassionate relationships. In essence, we can begin to fill the holes, correct the damage, and heal.

In my coaching practice, I frequently work with individuals who find themselves grappling with challenges they did not create but are nonetheless responsible for addressing. Our ability to communicate, make connections, resolve conflicts, and possess a healthy sense of self is formed in early childhood; research indicates that much of our communication style is established by age five. If these foundational patterns are unproductive, it becomes necessary to cultivate new, constructive behaviors.

The encouraging news is that, with appropriate methodologies, tools, discipline, commitment, and support, meaningful change is achievable.

**Grow and Thrive . . .**

Embrace the journey of growth, cultivate new habits, and welcome new beginnings

Both professionally and personally, I have witnessed the transformative impact of this work—whether overcoming personal obstacles or guiding others. Leadership requires intentional choices, as our actions invariably influence those who look up to us. My experiences with my grandchildren underscore the importance of modeling positive behavior and minimizing the burdens passed on to future generations.